"presents"

I don't like birthday presents or any such presents - giving or taking. presents creep me out. I literally run away from birthdays or occasions where presents are given. I think it all stems from few of things from my past that are itched on my soul.

1) that night, few hours before my mom's birthday, she was sleeping on the floor bed in the living room. I woke her up with all the excitement and I gave her a hair clip. She just nodded, said "what's this? a clip? okay." and just went back to sleep.

2) friend's birthday - I painted a flower vase for her with love. Few days later, I heard her mom saying "painted flower vase is not a gift to be given for a birthday, isn't it?" my friend however told me that she kept that vase in her bedroom on her bedside table.

3) dad's office friend with his family had come over. they had a daughter, maybe same as my age. I liked her and out of love, I went to the fridge, opened it and gave her a kitkat. Once they left, parents said I should not be giving things to other that are expensive. 

4) Very often I have heard (even today) mom talking about how what someone gave them as a present was useless. How even though she had no expectations, she expected more than this. (how conveniently manipulative)

5) With dad, I never remember having a real problem - he has been okay with receiving presents. Giving never really went well with him. this impacted a lot a relationships.

These are my memories with presents.

the main reason why I hesitate and turn anxious when it comes to giving or taking presents.

the main reason why I would never give a present to my parents for sure.

I step out of many "present"-deciding situations where my detachment behavior starts driving the decision.

I never learnt how to balance between the emotions involved in giving and receiving presents.

I have been a douche bag on many occasions -

1) Arrogance towards the Velneshwar guest-house gift contribution.

2) Hesitation during any contribution for wedding/birthday gifts.

3) People asking me for stuff or coming over uninvited and eating up food!

Question and situation for me is - How do i handle this behavior? Next time a "present" situation creeps up, how do I not let it worry me.

You know what comes to me naturally? - when I plan a present that is based on what the individual needs rather than the price value of the present.

Added: for the record, I am eating like crazy today. Dal, Fries, Chocolate Sugar cookies, Oat cookies and now preparing Rice and Dal!