The broken vase, was never broken.
Ever come across a broken vase? a vase which was very dear to you, now shattered and you are hell bent on mending it? Even if you do so, it's totally impossible to make it look like the original one. Totally impossible to avoid the cracks unless you are that alien from 'Koi mil gaya' who makes use of the sun rays to mend broken things without leaving a crack on it.
Just like this vase, trust once broken cannot be mended.. why? Because in the first place, the trust cannot broken at all. You ask me to define trust, I have no answers. You know the kind of feeling you get when you are with some people... like say, there are no barriers when you share things, you feel kinda safe around them, you can always count on them and even if you fight like cats n dogs you are back to each other within no minutes. Its like saying, 'I place my life in your palm'. These things don't happen within a day or two, it can't be forced upon either. It has to flow with time. Trust, is a strong word and I believe trust never breaks. When you trust someone, you love them for whoever they are or whatever they do and when you love someone, whatever they do, your love for them doesn't subside. Trust and Love are two sacred words, atleast for me and they go hand in hand. All relations commence with Trust, stay stable with Love and fade away with death.
When I was a toddler, mum used to stay by my side while swinging so that she could catch me in case I fall and it was the fact that I trusted her, I used to swing harder ;) This isn't because I only loved her, it's because I trusted her first and ofcourse love then followed automatically.
I think about people I tagged as 'they broke my trust'. If I look back now, I don't feel they've broken my trust. It's just that they did something which wasn't in my favor, something which I didn't agree to and I told them 'you broke my trust!' How could I ever say that? I loved them and yes, I still do. They were my best friends... the kind with whom you can be yourself! I never had to wear a facade, whatever I am , I was with them and so were they. But I guess somewhere at the unknown tick of the clock, I hurt my ego. That's when things took an ugly turn.
If only we could realize, that 'breaking trust' factor is possible only when we have expectations from the other person and they do something totally contradictory to it. We all make mistakes and if two people trust each other but because of some reason one of them does something against the expectations of the other, it cannot be termed as 'Trust-Breaking I call it 'Ego-Hurting' !
Just like this vase, trust once broken cannot be mended.. why? Because in the first place, the trust cannot broken at all. You ask me to define trust, I have no answers. You know the kind of feeling you get when you are with some people... like say, there are no barriers when you share things, you feel kinda safe around them, you can always count on them and even if you fight like cats n dogs you are back to each other within no minutes. Its like saying, 'I place my life in your palm'. These things don't happen within a day or two, it can't be forced upon either. It has to flow with time. Trust, is a strong word and I believe trust never breaks. When you trust someone, you love them for whoever they are or whatever they do and when you love someone, whatever they do, your love for them doesn't subside. Trust and Love are two sacred words, atleast for me and they go hand in hand. All relations commence with Trust, stay stable with Love and fade away with death.
When I was a toddler, mum used to stay by my side while swinging so that she could catch me in case I fall and it was the fact that I trusted her, I used to swing harder ;) This isn't because I only loved her, it's because I trusted her first and ofcourse love then followed automatically.
I think about people I tagged as 'they broke my trust'. If I look back now, I don't feel they've broken my trust. It's just that they did something which wasn't in my favor, something which I didn't agree to and I told them 'you broke my trust!' How could I ever say that? I loved them and yes, I still do. They were my best friends... the kind with whom you can be yourself! I never had to wear a facade, whatever I am , I was with them and so were they. But I guess somewhere at the unknown tick of the clock, I hurt my ego. That's when things took an ugly turn.
If only we could realize, that 'breaking trust' factor is possible only when we have expectations from the other person and they do something totally contradictory to it. We all make mistakes and if two people trust each other but because of some reason one of them does something against the expectations of the other, it cannot be termed as 'Trust-Breaking I call it 'Ego-Hurting' !
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ReplyDeleteThis one has agitated my brains, and hence I love it. *Sniff*, it's beautiful.:D
I do agree with the message this post wants to deliver, because it rings a bell within me.
Trust, to me is a very strong and valuable notion. Something as beautiful as Love. Because to me, trusting someone is setting them free to do anything they want to do. Trust is my belief in the existence of rationality and a hunger for excellence in someone else's mind.
So when somebody breaks my trust, I dislike it not because they haven't acted the way I wanted them to, but because they have disproved my faith in them.
hey, thanx!
ReplyDeleteYes it's true that betraying my faith in them can break my trust.
But you know, as I was writing this post, I floated back to those times when I felt like saying 'you broke my trust' to a few people and believe me I felt somehow those relations weren't meant to last at all!
and well, talking about faith, I have full faith in GOD, but there are times when nothing works in my favor....but I cant say that I don't trust HIM. I cant say that HE has disapproved my faith in HIM... right?
...Finally what has to happen, will happen and whatever happens will be for the best! :)))
lol, I believe Trust is actually more than what we think it is! :P
My views on Faith, I breathed into this story.
ReplyDeleteinteresting insight! I do see your point and its true in many cases! But there are situations when people actually betray your trust, your belief in them, their character..
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ReplyDeleteThankyou.
Do keep visiting.
Yes, there are times when we loose our faith in ppl.
In my opinion, it happens only when we let ourselves lose our faith/trust in them :)